The Art of Letting Go

Do you know how it feels when you’re trying to fight, but the other person stopped and now you’re fighting alone? Do you know how it feels like to be left alone fighting for nothing? If you have, then you’re not alone; there are hundreds and thousands of us out there. I know you’ll ask me, “if there are so many of us, then why do I still feel alone?”

            This is the story of my own fictional characters named Noelle and Adam. Two people brought together to learn that love does not come in just one shape, size, characteristic, or status. Love will come when you least expect it, even when you’re not ready yet.

            Noelle and Adam are best friends turned into lovers, and then they broke up. They broke up for just one reason: They think that their relationship is better of as being best friends. When they were still together, Noelle had to let Adam go because she knew that Adam was never ready to commit, that he loved his freedom more than anything else. Adam on the other hand, wanted to claim Noelle when she gave up on him already. He had his chance, but he let slip it slip away.

            Letting go is a crucial part in this story because if Noelle kept on holding onto Adam, she would’ve suffered longer, tortured her emotions, or even killed her own dignity. If Adam kept on pestering Noelle instead of accepting and letting her go, he would’ve caused more pain, agony, and he would’ve hurt, not only Noelle, but himself as well.

            Letting go doesn’t mean you’re too weak to fight or you’ve given up right away. Letting go is being smart and kind at the same time. You’re smart, of course, because you’ve chosen to end things before they get worse. You’re kind because you’re not only saving yourself from pain, but others as well.

            Better things are on the way when you’ve learned to let go. It’s painful, but you can cry it out. Do everything to let go and forget; anything to make the pain go away, just do it. Letting go applies to everyone. I will tell you everything you need as motivation to whatever pain you feel.

            For all the martyrs out there, “loving yourself less doesn’t mean the other person will love you more.” For all the victims of love, “Someone will make you beautiful again. Someone will hold you and make you feel that even if the entire world would go against you, you are secure.” And “Go find someone who can fill that void and make you happy.” And for those who are in pain and in the process of letting go, “Someday, somewhere, you’ll see that person again and you will realize that it was better that your relationship did not work out.”